SHOW YOURSELF SOME SELF-LOVE
12 May 2023
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SHOW YOURSELF SOME SELF-LOVE
Do you need to show yourself some self-love?
I so hope this post helps you to be kinder to yourself. Maybe you have a business plan but you are suffering with no self-belief to take it forward.
Showing yourself some self-love starts with one moment at a time.
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Treat yourself like you would a best friend
Firstly, I would like to consider myself a good friend. I have a small circle of really close friends that I would do anything for.
The one person I have not been so kind to is actually myself in the past. The things I have thought about myself have been most unkind. I would never treat any of my friends the way I have treated myself. Have you done this? Whether it’s looking in the mirror and in your mind and you're being unkind to yourself or you're putting yourself down.
I’m so glad that I’ve learned to show myself self-love and heal old wounds. Living in the present moment and not carrying the past is most definitely a nicer place. Most people have always seen me as very confident but in truth, I used to suffer from low confidence and low self-esteem.
Making changes in how I treated myself with self-love has changed my life. In fact, I wouldn't have been able to start my business crafting handmade candles and selling them if I hadn't started to believe in myself. I am so happy to have turned a passion into a business.
Treating yourself to a date with YOURSELF
It started on Saturday afternoon many years ago, the sun was out and I had a few hours to myself. My daughter was spending the afternoon at her boyfriend’s house and I decided I would head for the seafront at Weston-Super-Mare.
My daughter said her goodbye’s whilst getting out of my car and a sense of exhilaration came over me. I said to myself (probably out loud, knowing me) that I was taking myself on a date. I’m off to show yourself some self-love I thought.
With the gorgeous rays of sunshine beaming down, I found a parking space with no problems. I thought it would be lovely to have a walk along the seafront. I started walking down the steps by the Claremont Wine Vaults Free House. As I reached the bottom of the step, instead of turning left to walk along the seafront, I paused for a moment.
To my left is where I thought I would be headed, but it’s a walk I have done many times. Looking to my right was the path leading to the old Pier. I’m sure I would have walked that way before, but I couldn’t recall it.
Looking still to my right, I spotted an elderly couple sat on a bench engrossed reading their books. Being a bookworm myself I saw this as a good omen and decided to take myself on a little adventure.
I promised myself a date and what better than to go for a walk and soak up the surroundings in what felt like unfamiliar grounds.
Time stopped for me whilst on my date with myself. Being Mindful I wanted to take in all the sights and sounds around me. It was absolutely blissful.
My environment seemed to reflect how I was feeling inside. The water was so calm and peaceful and the air smelt fresh and clear. I stood there pressed against the wall with my hands cupped against my face, watching the sunbeams dancing on the water. It was so hypnotic.
Walking at a leisurely pace, I reached Birnbeck Pier. Birnbeck Pier is Weston-super-Mare’s old Pier and has been closed since 1994.
Not a care in the world
There were quite a few benches in the area so I decided to just sit and people-watch without a care in the world. It was such a clear day. In the background is Wales.
After sitting there for some time, my belly started grumbling and I thought what better than to treat myself to a lunch date. I passed a little cafe en route to Birnbeck Pier so thought I’d order something from there on the way back.
This is the first time I have ever taken myself out to lunch before. Sure, I have had to eat alone in many hotels when I have stayed away with work but this was very different. When I have had to eat in a hotel for work I generally sit there on my phone, sending emails and texts, and hoping that people aren’t judging me for being a lone female.
Arriving at the cafe, I ordered myself a tuna sandwich and water. Looking around at the other tables there were families, couples of all different ages, most with a dog it seemed.
I found a table that overlooked the seafront and proudly pulled out my chair. This was truly out of my comfort zone but it felt really good. Was I the only person at the time eating alone? Yes. Am I the only person that has ever eaten alone? No. Were all eyes on me, full of people judging me? Not that I noticed, in fact, I was happy to be all by myself. I actually found it was me that was watching everyone else.
Finishing off my lunch I walked back to my car extremely content. I had just had the best time with myself.
This was just the beginning of a new era where being kinder to myself became normal and from this, my confidence grew and changes started happening.
